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Saturday, May 26, 2012
Saturday, May 26, 2012
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How Good Should You Be To Your Parents?
Among the verses which we hear the most in our sermons, seminars and
personal advices is " Be good to your parents" Can goodness be
measured? Can you take a stock of your goodness? NO ! But can Allah
take stock of my goodess? Yes. If you study the verses related to the
the rights of parents you will come across many injuctions that gives
us a good parameter to atleast analyse how good we are to our parents,
rather how bad we are to them.
In Surha Baqarah verse
83, Allah says : We taook a promise from the Bani Israel that they will
not worship any one besides Allah and will be kind to their parents...
The arabic phrase is : Wabil Walidayn ihasana...Ihsan in Urdu means to
oblige someone. But in Arabic it means : To offer the best. The root
word "Ha Seen Noon" has another word " Husna" which means "To beautify".
Now if study the phrase again, we read it " and "Beautify your conduct
towards your parents" How does one beautify his conduct. or offer a
best conduct?
Ihsan also means better response for
good , good for evil and it reflects in speech and action. In speech,
the Qur'an gives and example inn Surah Nisaa..And when a courtesou
greeting is offered to your respond it with better.. the Arabic phrase
for better response is..with ahsan...Ahsan is a superlative degree of
good.. and the Hadith explains this verse : when some body says
Assalamualaikum.. you reply him : walaykumussalam warahamtullah
wabarakatuhu... Rahmatullahi and Barakatuhu are better reponse...
So how can we do ihsan with parents in speech? Surah Isra , verse 23
says : Waqullahuma qaulan Kareema.. and talk to them in an honourable
manner. ..Dont' instruct them but request them. Respond them politey.
Correct them respectfully. This is what the Qur'an instructs us when it
says: do not say even "UFF" to them. Even a harsh father of Prophet
Ibrahim was responded by his son by the term " Yaa Abaati " O my dear
father ". This ihsan was towards a father who is one of the biggest
obstacle in his passion of Touhid. Compare this with our corrections of
our parents who are regular in salah and nice people!
Even body language is a form of communication, isnt it? Looking
harshly at parents can give you negative grades. Aisha r.a.a said : A
man looking harshly at his father is not a man of rightous conduct ( In
spite of his being a regular in the masjid, giving charity....) Ibn
Abbas said : Ihsan towards parents also include, not to shake one's
clothes before them so as to prevent the dust from our clothers fall on
them !
Allah loves kindness to parents says a popular
Hadith from Bukhari. But many of us exclude spending on parents . Let us
check from the Qur'an : They ask you what should spend? Say : What
ever you spend is good.. on parents.. So spending on parents is an act
that qualifies you to stand in the ranks of those who do Ihasan with
parents. A father has right to spend the money of his son. This is an
Islamic ruling with no second opinion. Today we run out of our money in
buying expensive gadgets for our wives and kids, while our parents run
short of money for their medicines. Let me whisper one more thing..
wasting your parent's money is also a bad conduct towards them.
Inspite of doing all these things have we really thanked our parents ?
No not possible. Refer to Surha Luqman, verse 14 : In travail upon
travail did his mother bear him.... means when we wereint he womb of our
mothers she carried us with utmost care....and two years of weaning,
says the verse..Can we carry our mother continuosly for 24 hours day and
night? No. Then how do we thank her? Since we are not able to return
their obligation with Ihsan, with better conduct then they did to us,
so we continue doing best to them and yet leave the matter to Allah to
reward them...Note this Qur'anic verse : (Pray for them ) My Lord
! Bestow on them your mercy as they cherished me in childhood...
Author : Nisaar Nadiadwala
All The King's Men and All The King's Horses.....When Down fall Arrives..
When an arrogant ruler keeps on displaying his arrogancy his downfall arrives from that very thing he boasted about. When down fall arrives it comes all of a sudden and it comes from Allah from any where.Let us go back and see the verse number 49 of Surah Bakarah : Remember ( O Children of Israel ) we rescued you from the people of Pharoah, they set you hard task and slaughtered your sons and let your women folk alive, In that was a tremenduos trial from your Lord.... And remember we Divided the sea for you and saved you and drowned Pharoah's people within your very sight
There are few important things to be noted in the above 2 verses
1. Arabic word "Najjaynakum".... Allah says I saved you from Pharoah....
Moral of the phrase : Help against atrocious governments should be sought from Allah.
2. "They set upon you hard task " The Bani Israel were made to do a lot of labour by the Pharoah and his court. This was the test number 1.
3. They slaughtered your sons...The arabic word is Uzabbihoon...cutting the throat like we do zabiha of animals..How many of us can tolerate the slaughter of our own sons before our eyes and that too as a regular affair for a long time ? Test number 2.
4. And let your women folk alive.....What else can be more humiliating than all the women folk of a race are taken up as slave girls and their boys killed? Test number 3.
5. We divided the sea for you and saved you and drowned the people of Pharoah within your very sight....This is also a test...Test number 4.The Bani Israels of today ( Zionist, Teleaviv, Israel) have forgotten this lesson. Just one minute back the Bani Israel were frightened and trying to cross over the sea to save their lives and an arrogant army intoxicated by power superiority chasing them, and the next minute when the last peson of Bani Israel climbed out of the sea.. the water got into its original state. Phaorah's entire army was defeated with being fought !
The very same water which Pharoah baosted about arrogantly to insult Moses a.s. became the weapon of his destruction. All the King's men and All the King's Horses could not put Humpty Dumpty together again
The last test mentioned above, continues. Now Allah is reminding the Bani Israels about His obligation upon them when they were subjugated. In today's context they are reminded because they are today's Pharoah and the helpless Palestians are today's victim. With no army to rescue them.. if Allah can save Bani Israel He can save Palisitinians and what He did it to Pharoah, He can do it to Israel. As Allah anounces in Qur'an.. walan tajida sunnatillahi tabdilaa.. And never will you see a change in the Method of Allah....
Author : Nisaar Nadiadwala
A Letter Worth Reading..
A young reader got her
marriage fixed. Her “to be” husband , is in the US. She came to know
that although the boy is religious, he recently got a credit card, as
he was told that credit card is not haram in US. The following letter
is a case study that reflects the components of an Islamic argument. It
has an emotional appeal with a firm stand, an intellectual appeal with
a convincing reason and finally a Qur'anic reminder with a result..yes
he dropped the plan of using a credit card....This is the note I will
demand from all my readers to click 'like' because it is not written by
me....
Assalamualiakum ................... ,
I
looked into the matter regarding use of credit cards. Firstly,There is
no difference of opinion regarding taking loans (ribaa based) and
credit cards. They all say it’s haraam. It deals with riba. If it was
some minor thing, I really wouldn’t care. But it is a major sin, and the
punishment clearly states that it is war against Allah and His
messenger. And another narration mentions- swimming in a pool of blood .
Would the prophet (saw) just say this for nothing? And I can’t live my
life thinking about the fact that we're living like that and heading
towards a dreadful Akhira !
I dont want us to live
displeasing Allah. If we disobey Him, we can never be confident of our
duaas being answered. There will be some trial or the other in our life.
There won’t be serenity. Things will either be complicated in life or
calamities, some or the other issue will come up etc. We cannot look at
others & say that nothing went wrong in their life, they did it.
Cause people won’t share their personal crisis with others. Only they
&Allah know about it.
Whereas if you strive to
please Allah, you will never regret. He will get you out of every
calamity. At the end of it, it is only the true believers who live a
peaceful blissful life because of their obedience to Allah. Trust me on
that. Nothing is more important than the pleasure of Allah. And if you
want a beautiful life, without calamities, it is only through complete
submission. Only then will things get facilitated for you.
There are people who don’t have homes, food, clothing...and here we're
thinking of big homes and cars etc ...(this may sound cheesy & all
but just think about it- Allah can take away these blessings anytime.
Health, wealth, family, it’s all in His hands ) People did live without
credit cards a few years back right? Allah has blessed us with so much
already, just lets be content with whatever He provides in the halaal
way. There are people who when they get into haraam, then Allah reminds
them by testing them with their health, wealth, some or the other
crisis.
And you want your Porsche na? I'll make duaa
for that, a few years later, Inshallah and see how you will get it...
Just trust Allah and live HALAAL. My duaas are enough , you dont need
credit cards and loans for that. Nothing can be more powerful than
duaas. That is when true tawakkul comes into action. And those who have
that , Allah answers only their duaas.
I don’t even
know how much I have typed. Just went with the flow and poured out
what’s in my heart in favour of shariah and worried about our
Hereafter . Atleast as of now, dont use your credit card please. I dont
want you to use it. Neither for me, nor for yourself. We dont need it
now. Hope you understand. I care for you, thats why Im saying all this
to you.
I know its difficult in the US to live like
that, but then Allah says that if you cannot practice your deen, then
migrate- Allah's earth is spacious! That’s why concerned people leave US
so that they dont jeopardize their duniya and aakhira. You wont realize
it now when I am saying it, but then whats the point in realizing after
the damage is done?
What’s the point if we have a
home & cars based on loans involved in ribaa and no barakaah in our
lives? Its a serious matter. Please dont take it lightly. Wont you just
be happy if you have a wife, and good kids with food on your plate and
a roof above your head? There are people who have big homes, cars etc.
but no family, marital issues, no kids.. or some other prob. This is
because they dont obey Allah, so Allah snatches the barakah from their
lives. You get the point? Or then On the outside it may look all cool,
but there’s no peace of mind on the inside! What’s the point then? And
some Allah grants them leave here in the duniya and they will pay for it
in the hereafter!
Finally dont forget , that Ribaa is
worse than alcohol and adultery. Allah (swt) has declared WAR. And when
Allah declares war, 'Peace & Happiness' are the first casualties.
Author : Nisaar Nadiadwala
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